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Nov. 20th, 2006

11:56 am - Yoo hoo...anyone out there?

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Hey feminist mamas...
this is a very quiet community. I am just wondering who is out there? If you are so inclined, please answer the following questions:
1.Age
2.Location
3.# and ages of children
4.Best thing about being a feminist
5.Worst thing about being a feminist
6.Queer, bi, straight...what's your orientation
7.Relationship status
8.Current burning issue(s)...if any

My answers:
1.37 years old
2.Toronto, Ontario, Canada
3.one son, aged two years and 4 months
4.Best thing for me about being a feminist is how it grounds me...providing a core, central perspective to how I see the world...and how much it challenges me to deconstruct, look again, and honour the often unspoken and invisible realities of my own and other women's lives.
5.Worst thing about being a feminist is the feeling that I sometimes have that I am all alone in it, the lack of cohesive community and the frustration with the status quo of the world.
6.Bisexual
7.Married to a man
8.My current struggle is finding my own happiness versus being a wife and mother...how much of myself am I willing to "give up" in service to my relationships with my husband and son....so far I have not been able to establish any real mutuality or equality in my marriage re: child care responsibilites, household tasks and emotional nuturing. How do I weigh my own happiness against the needs of my son....as a feminist, do I ditch a marital relationship that I can't be whole in...theoretically, it all sounds so easy to resolve, but in real life, how do I live my feminist ideals and vision in the most intimate contexts? When is it okay to compromise and what are the circumstances that force compromise?

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From:almostwhitemeat
Date:November 20th, 2006 06:50 pm (UTC)
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1.Age: 31

2.Location: Washington state, I live in a rural area about an hour outside of Seattle, but plan on moving closer to the city after the New Year.

3.# and ages of children: One little boy, he's two and a half.

4.Best thing about being a feminist: I don't know if it's the best thing about being a feminist but since I'm a woman and I don't hate myself, it was pretty much a given that I identify as a feminist.

5.Worst thing about being a feminist: I don't know of any bad things, but I guess my main criticism of mainstream feminism is the focus on white, middle and upper class women's issues. Like the whole "mommy wars" bit. Most mom's don't get to make a choice regarding work or family. They do what they HAVE to do.

6.Queer, bi, straight...what's your orientation: I always say "Straight but not narrow!"

7.Relationship status: Married.

8.Current burning issue(s)...My biggest concern now is raising my son in an all white community. It's the main reason we are moving after the start of the year. We only moved here to be close to family, but the thought of him being raised in a town that completely lacks any diversity scares the Hell out of me.

I definitely wish this community were more active. It's mostly my fault because I don't spend an awful lot of time on the computer anymore...
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From:jenni_knightess
Date:November 21st, 2006 12:10 am (UTC)
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Hey feminist mamas...
this is a very quiet community. I am just wondering who is out there? If you are so inclined, please answer the following questions:
1.Age: 25
2.Location: Huntley, IL...aka the boonies
3.# and ages of children: 2- 1 of each; Taylor 4.5, Thomas 21 mos.
4.Best thing about being a feminist:I have a mind, and I'm not afraid to let anyone know what I think or feel.
5.Worst thing about being a feminist: I can't really relate to a lot of other mothers around here...
6.Queer, bi, straight...what's your orientation: straight
7.Relationship status: married
8.Current burning issue(s)...if any: everything's an issue. Right now, it's my job...or the fact that I'm working....but not making nearly what I'm worth. I'm not really sure it's an issue of being female, feminist, or the fact that I work in retail. What is a burning issue, is the fact that I can't move up because I have kids, and no reliable source of childcare, unless I'm willing to shell out $500/week for it. That sucks. How's that fair to women who HAVE to provide for their families?
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